There may be disagreements between men and women who are linked together. They both are experiencing growing pains and want some additional room to maneuver. Men tend to clamp down tightly and get intense. Women are more apt to be concentrating on their own self development, much to the consternation of the men in their life. More freedom means something is about to change. As humans, we like things to be predictable. But we all need shaking up sometime. Women may be more inclined to talk about their individual needs as theoretical in nature. Men might not care to acknowledge their changing needs at all. Actions can have an adverse effect on the staid, traditional structure of authority that has been predictable and reliable til now. But we may need a shake up precisely because things can get boring - predictable but boring - if change doesn't happen. And who wants to be bored?