Some progress is being made in organizing as a couple to get things done. Reason an intuition are better bedfellows, too. Your feelings may not be discounted easily as irrational. As the French philosopher said, "the heart knows whereof the mind knows nothing." Not everything IS rational.
But while the sexes are more on the same page, there remains some habitual, nagging complaints. Does what your partner does grate on you a bit more than usual? The good news is that secrets have been revealed, things are being talked about...the first step toward resolution.
Things are changing; old rules don't always function well n a new environment. It's a process, not a once and done. Do not beat up on yourself for not getting everything right the first time. Just keep trying.